What to do if your partner leaves you with the children
When a relationship breaks down, and there are children involved, it is not uncommon for one party to be left with the children and unsure what to do next. Some parents may feel anxious that the other parent will reappear unannounced and “reclaim” the children, particularly if it is the Father who has been left to look after them. This fact sheet sets out some of the concerns a newly single parent may have, and what options are available.
Are you staying together for the sake of the children?
If you are at a point where you desperately want to separate from your spouse, but are feeling you can’t make the break because of the impact it will have on your children, then you are not alone.
However it may surprise you that a poll conducted last year by ComRes on 514 young people actually revealed that 82% of children aged 14-22 stated that they would rather their parents split up if they are unhappy.
How to Get a Divorce – The 10 Step Process
1. Before doing anything, be 100% certain that divorce is the only solution
A relationship break-down is a stressful time for all concerned and as emotions run high, the decision to file for divorce may seem the only solution at the current time, however, there are other options available that could give you both time apart, giving you space to help you evaluate your marriage more effectively and decide if it has indeed reached a point of no return, or whether there is still some hope for a reconciliation. If you are 100% certain that a divorce is the right decision, then there is a legal process to follow. For some couples, dependent upon the clarity of the assets owned and finances, this process can take four to six months, but for others it may take many months or even years to conclude the process and obtain a Decree Absolute.
Separating from your spouse – What are your options?
Separating from your spouse is not an easy decision to make, but if you are in a relationship which no longer makes you happy, and you have tried to resolve issues between each other without success, then a period of separation can give you both some valuable time and space to decide if you can, and want, to make your partnership work, or if a permanent separation is best solution for you, your spouse and your children.
The legal system and the options available if you are going through separation and divorce can seem confusing and often overwhelming so to help you gain an understanding on the options available to you, your legal entitlements and how to start the process, it is advisable to take some professional advice. You may also benefit from seeking extra support from friends, family members, work colleagues or a relationship counsellor who will help you through this emotional time of conflict and uncertainty.
Get to Grips with Legal Terminology
Common Legal Words and Terms used during divorce and family law cases
If you are considering a divorce, or are currently going through a divorce, you will likely have read some articles on the divorce process and have some idea on what steps you need to take.
If your research has taken you to a variety of resources, or you are already in the process of a divorce, you may be feeling a little confused by various legal terms because you don’t fully understand the meaning of them.